Toxic Positivity

When you wake up in the morning, think positive. The phrase we have been taught to gain positive energy.  We try to avoid all the thoughts which are termed to be negative and can slow our pace of thinking. It’s true when we don’t have any liabilities in our life and we don’t have any type of obligations to overcome. But simply being positive takes us to depression in the evening, when results don’t come to our favor. 

Many of my friends have stopped talking to me when I tried to share my thoughts with them even stopped responding to my Good Morning messages in Whattsapp! Some of whom used to share wonderful thoughts since long time and now they are nowhere when I need them most.

We come to understand at later stage of life when we face real challenges in married life and job that staying away from negative thought will keep negative things away. Practically we are just running away from the challenges we are facing.

In our life when everything is fine, we rarely ever look inside ourselves or think about doing better. We always talk about struggle that we have done to achieve one’s goal either in career or studies. It is bitter truth that we grow more when things are not usual. This makes us to understand others when they talk about their problems.

Our conversations become worth when we discuss our experiences with others as this causes a shift in our mind and how we see the world around. Being vulnerable in safe spaces can build authentic relationships and allows us to see things from another point of view and can heal the pain of others.

Whenever we share our experiences we build a relationship, it broadens our perspectives and release good hormones in our body which helps in healing and psychological recovery.

We should understand that just as birth, health, success and gains come our way, similarly, ageing and death, illness and failures will also come our life. These are the two sides of the same coin, and we need to examine our expectations of only wanting one of them.

In these days we mostly try to find  what is upsetting us most and work through it with friends, family, or a professional. We must try to find outlets to channel your emotions, and should not keep chasing the joy.

We should know that self-motivation and self-care look different for everyone. Honour yourself and your emotions – it's okay to feel your pain. #Toxic-positivity